everything in life is a trap, pour one out for him #RIP
I hate this because this is actually another example of women’s and lesbians’ oppression. Many lesbian parents who get into a bad financial situation (no matter how temporary) are forced to contact their donor for support even if they don’t want to or there was a contract because the government makes them do that before they are approved for any kind of government assistance for your child. Maybe if they gave both moms parental rights things like this wouldn’t happen. Blame the government not the parents.
Also it wouldn’t surprise me if they paid him to be a donor and he did it without knowing what he was doing in order to reap his own benefits. Do not feel sorry for him one bit.
So basically this dude is being forced to pay large sums of money for a kid that he has no parental rights to and you’re making this about women. Really.
Why do you have to make other peoples’ problems all about women? Why do you feel the need to constantly reframe everything so you look like the victim in every possible situation?
It’s actually pretty disgusting that you’re using this poor guy’s plight as a platform for how oppressed women are, because of course EVERYTHING is misogyny if you squint at it.
Sperm donors usually have no parental rights to their children and are usually just there to provide the ingredients. Unless these women are willing to give him full parental rights, he shouldn’t have to owe them a dime.
"What? A man is LITERALLY being oppressed?
This must be another example of how WOMEN are FIGURATIVELY being oppressed!”
Except this isn’t a case of a man being oppressed at all and the ruling is absolutely correct under the law.
Kansas law requires that for a man making a sperm donation to waive his parental rights, he must go through a licensed physician, otherwise he’s liable for any children that result, even if he signs a contract that waives his parental rights. This ensures that nasties such as STD’s, underlying genetic conditions, etc. don’t get unwittingly passed to a future child that the couple with the baby are now on the hook for, or that the couple tries to sue a donor for a health condition the baby has that may or may not have come from him. It’s a GOOD thing to require a health check up on both parties before before strangers start making babies with one another.
The ruling happened because the arrangement for the sperm donation was done via Craigslist and not through a proper medical clinic, and at no point was a physician brought in to assess the health of the biological mother and father prior to conception.
If the lesbian couple knew they could eventually sue for child support before they received his sperm, they’re assholes and he might have a case for suing them for theft of body fluids or something since it wasn’t an official donation. I’m not sure how that would work or whether he would have a case at all.
If they didn’t know about it beforehand and some doctor or lawyer told them that they could sue for child support, they are well within their rights to get child support according to Kansas law. The man should have checked up on the law and made sure of exactly what he was getting into before he agreed to father a child, regardless of whether he wanted anything to do with that child.
If they had gone into a clinic and gotten a physician to sign off on the artificial insemination, they would have no case whatsoever to get money from him. This is why you go through professionals for this sort of transaction and not through fucking Craigslist.
My incredulous image macro was about someone trying to make this about the two women being oppressed. I also provided several sources for the story, didya notice?